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Fantastic Positions for Rad Fatties! Sex Toys for Fat Sex, too!
Fat Sex is rife with so much stress and incorrect information. (BTW, I just call it “sex.”) Lots of misconceptions about what fat bodies can do in the bedroom; we’re going to put all of those myths on blast and recommend amazing positions and toys for your fat bedroom!
I’m Chrystal, a fat 55-year-old woman, co-host of BigSexyChat Podcast, and sex toy expert. I’ve been in the sex toy business since 2003 and I can confirm: Where there’s a will, there's a way!!
While doing research for this article, I surveyed my friends and followers - over 500k of them - and received a lot of valuable input on sexy ideas for an extraordinary shag while living in a bigger body.
We created this handy guide as a visual reference for you to explore and experiment with your love life!
Click the link: HERE *NSFW*
Here’s some tips on fan-favorite positions:
To kick this off with my favorite, have you tried doggy style while spooning? I’m a “big” fan. While I’m being silly, remember that sex is kind of fun and funny; you should be laughing on occasion! (NOT laughing at your lover but with your lover.)
My partner and I are both cisgendered and we love this position for P in the V sex. We call it the Lazy Sex position. We are spooning and I am the inside spoon, of course. It’s very high touch, snuggling, skin-on-skin kind of fun. If I want to add some extra stimulation, I often use a silver bullet toy externally. 10/10 highly recommended!
Val D. suggested doggy-style sex with vibration. Yesssss, Val! When having sex from behind, doggy style works great with the electric or cordless Magic Wand. The Magic Wand is often mentioned as a great vibrator for people of size due to the extra long handle. If you have a big behind, this position is also very visually exciting for the partner behind you.
My friend and podcast co-host, Merf, is a fan of the plus-size doggy style strap, made by SportSheets. She and her husband also have fun with cowgirl or reverse cowgirl positions. She mentioned several times how important a firm mattress is required when having cowgirl-style sex on a bed. If the bed is not firm enough, they sink way down into the mattress and cannot move much. Sidenote: I’ve also tried it on a saggy mattress and I felt like I was being impaled by my lover’s member.
Another tip is using the headboard for balance to give her a full range of motion! Don’t be afraid to use the bed, headboard or your partner to balance and ensure you remain stable and comfortable.
Merf also shared an important point: “When fat people’s genitals are together, there is often much less space for toys or fingers. I prefer a smaller battery operated bullet between us to enhance pleasure.”
We can not overstate the value of using toys in the bedroom! Another person from one of my favorite Facebook groups, Fat Brunch, mentioned the Womanizer Duo. She said, “you can flip it over and use the insertable part of the toy as a nice and long handle to allow her to position the suction perfectly.” I’m excited to try it. I have one in my boudoir charging up as I type!
Another friend from Fat Brunch, also loves the Womanizer style toy and she prefers doggy style and being on top because she can move her tummy and rest it on her partner’s tummy. Do not be shy about making modifications with your body and your partner’s body that work best for you.
If people struggle with being on top, the corner of your mattress can help immensely. The person with the penis or strap-on can sit on the corner of the bed and the receiver can back up on it. This is where a firm and well constructed bed, like the Big Fig, is very valuable! The increased edge support allows you to use the bed without worrying about falling or slipping off the edge, and lets you fully enjoy yourself and be in the moment.
The legs in the air position, modified missionary, has many names. It’s often called the Plow, Deep Missionary, Rock-n-roll, and The Hook. Phew! If one or both of you have a larger tummy, scootch to the end of your bed so you are almost to the edge. (Your partner can assist you so you do not slip off the bed.) Have the penis owner or strap-on owner hook your legs up on their shoulders so that your ankles are near their ears. This position is also exciting because you can see each other’s faces.
If this position is difficult, you can try it with a Liberator Wedge under your butt. You can incorporate your pillows under your butt, too. We ADORE the Liberator products for many reasons, but one of the biggest is because they have a line specifically for people in a larger body. Their products hold up to our weight and can also help couples who may have some disability to work with. They are called sexual aids after all.
The main takeaway here is that you communicate clearly with your lover. Communication is lubrication when it comes to your sex life. Be playful and adventurous. Have fun, laugh a little, and keep on experimenting to keep it fun and fresh.
And knowing you have a comfortable supportive mattress to then drift off to dreamland on!
By Chrystal Bougon
