The sex toy industry has come a long way in terms of innovation, but one area that still lacks proper representation is fat-positive, accessible design. Many products on the market don’t account for the unique needs of fat folks, from reach limitations to button placement and body proportions.
At Big Sexy Chat, we believe that pleasure should be for every body. We asked the fat community what they look for in a sex toy, and these are the top features that would make a world of difference. Let’s dive in!
1. Longer Toys for Enhanced Reach
For those with larger bodies, mobility limitations, or a wider torso, standard-length toys often don’t reach where they need to. Extending the length of a toy—whether it’s a vibrator, dildo, or wand—can make solo and partnered play much easier and more comfortable.
2. Buttons and Switches Designed for Accessibility
Toys with tiny, hard-to-press buttons or ones located in awkward positions can be a struggle. Larger, well-placed, and easy-to-press buttons (preferably with raised or textured surfaces) ensure that the toy is usable without fumbling or frustration.
3. Haptic Feedback Buttons for Intuitive Control
Sometimes, it’s hard to tell if a button has been pressed properly—especially mid-play. Haptic feedback (buttons that vibrate slightly when touched) would make toy operation way more intuitive, giving users an easy way to confirm settings without needing to look.
4. Suction Devices That Work for All Body Types
Not all clitorises are in the same spot or the same size. Some sit deeper within the labia, making it hard for standard suction toys to latch on properly. Adjustable or larger-opening suction devices would create a more inclusive experience.
5. Vibrating Toys That Heat Up
Temperature play can enhance pleasure, but for fat folks, toys that automatically warm up can also provide a more natural and comfortable sensation, avoiding the shock of a cold toy against the skin.
6. Increased Power Without the Clunky Design
Fat folks often need stronger vibrations due to layers of tissue, but many powerful toys—like the Hitachi Magic Wand—are bulky, hard to maneuver, and not designed with aesthetics in mind. A sleek yet powerful toy that doesn’t look like a medical device? Yes, please!
7. Toys with Finger Holes for Better Grip
Holding onto toys during play isn’t always easy, especially if hands get slippery or if grip strength is an issue. Toys with built-in finger holes (think a gunslinger-style grip) could make insertion and control a breeze.
8. Plus-Size Friendly Sex Furniture & Accessories
Sex furniture should be made with larger bodies in mind. Items like plus-size doggy-style straps, sturdier sex swings, and beds that can support more weight can transform pleasure and comfort.
9. Anal Toys with Longer Handles
Reaching around to adjust, insert, or remove a toy can be tough, especially for anal play. Longer-handled anal toys would make positioning much easier, reducing strain and increasing enjoyment.
10. Strap-On Shorts That Fit Larger Bodies
Many harnesses and strap-ons max out at small sizes, making them unusable for plus-size people. More options for comfortable, well-fitted strap-on shorts that go up to size 28+ would make a world of difference for fat folks looking for strap-on play.
11. Battery-Operated Toys with Longer, Sturdier Cords
Not everyone wants or can use rechargeable toys. For those who prefer plug-in wands or battery-powered options, longer, reinforced cords would make positioning easier and prevent frustrating disconnects mid-play.
What Did We Miss?
This list isn’t exhaustive, and we want to hear from you! Are there features or designs that you’d love to see in sex toys? Let us know in the comments or email us at bigsexychatpod@gmail.com.
Let’s push for pleasure products that truly work for all bodies!
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